This is the best description I’ve ever heard of what forgiveness is and is not. So practical and accurate! Share it with your friends…receive it for yourself.
“Forgiveness is not forgetting that anything happened, it’s not pretending that everything is okay when it’s not, it’s not ignoring problems.
And when you forgive it doesn’t mean that you have to trust the other person, it doesn’t mean that you have to be friends with the other person, it doesn’t even mean that you have to like that other person.
And it definitely does not mean that you have to subject yourself to the abuse of another person. If another person is hurting you physically or emotionally, it is not an expression of forgiveness to continually let them do that to you. That’s not loving to yourself, that’s not loving to that other person. That is not okay.
What we notice in Scripture is that forgiveness is consistently described as a kind of releasing or a canceling of a debt..it is when we let that person go, when we unclench our fist.”
– Vanessa Williams