“Friendship is the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words.” Mary Anne Evans
I ran across this quote last week and something about it resonated with me. I think there’s more to friendship than feeling safe in another’s presence, but not less.
Sometimes we need to “weigh thoughts” and “measure words” with others because we don’t know them. But often we do so precisely because we do know them, and they’ve proven themselves to be untrustworthy.
A friend is different. You feel safe around a friend. You know they want to love you, not judge you, build you up, not tear your down, shoot straight with you, not lie to you. They aren’t perfect, but you can trust them.
I have a handful of friends like this in my life (the chief of them being my wife, Kim) and I’m grateful for the relational ease that exists between us. It makes everything so much less complicated and more enjoyable.
There are a lot of factors that go into a healthy friendship, but perhaps one of the main ones is simply the ability to feel safe together because you are safe together.
How about you? Do you have safe friends in your life? Are you a safe friend to others?