When a house is being built, the contractors tend to follow a logical progression:
- first the foundation
- then the framing
- then HVAC, electrical, and plumbing
- followed by insulation
- next comes drywall and exterior work
- interior trim is completed
- the driveway and sidewalk are installed
- flooring and countertops are put in
- then comes light fixtures, outlets, toilets, etc.
- and finally – mirrors, shower doors, carpeting, and landscaping
All along the way there are inspections to make sure things are being done properly.
So, what does any of this have to do with you?
Put simply, your life is like a construction project.
There is a logical order for human growth and development that you heed to your benefit and ignore at your peril. Those who skip stages exchange short terms gains for long term losses. Their driveways and yards look great, but their foundations and plumbing are falling apart.
And then of course there are the inspections. People come into our lives with feedback – often helpful – which sometimes highlights errors we’ve made and ways we need to grow. The mark of a wise person is that they embrace a helpful rebuke. The mark of a fool is that they scorn it.
Is the analogy connecting yet? The fact is, we are all under construction. The only question is whether we are submitting to the stages or ignoring them, learning from the feedback or avoiding it.
If you think about it, it’s pretty arrogant for us to assume that we don’t need to pay our dues, go through the process, do the work, submit to the proper channels and authorities, get the education, sort out our inner demons, receive feedback from others, and learn from those who have gone before us.
Of course Jesus talked about construction too. After delivering the world’s best sermon, he said “Hey, don’t just listen to this stuff. Put it into practice. Then your house will be built on the rock and the storm won’t destroy it. But if you don’t apply my teaching, you’re building your house on the sand and setting yourself up for collapse.” (Matthew 7:24-27, my paraphrase).
None of this matters without the right foundation, and many build mansions on sand. But if your house is built on the rock, you can trust that it is secure and the master builder knows what he’s doing with you. Lean in to the stages. Lean in to the feedback. Learn in to the process.
- What type of foundation are you building on?
- Are there any stages you’ve skipped? If so, what would it look like to go back and address them?
- What’s the next phase of construction you need to begin working on?
- How do you respond to inspections?