You may have heard it said that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Studies have shown that we are profoundly social creatures. Our emotions, patterns, and ways of being rub off on those around us and vice versa. There is almost no way to spend a significant amount of time with someone and not be influenced by them, either positively or negatively.
Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.”
Who do you spend the most time with? Are the relationships in your life helping you become more of your best self, or bringing out more of your worst self?
I think it’s worth noting that there’s a difference between friends, acquaintances, and outreach. I believe that friends tend to shape us the most, and it’s altogether possible to be “salt and light” to those in the dark without that darkness enveloping us. Just look at Jesus.
Speaking of Jesus, I can’t think of a better first friend. Spend the most time with him, let him rub off on you, and you can’t go wrong.
You can also spend a lot of time with wise people who are dead or relationally inaccessible through books, YouTube, podcasts, newsletters, etc. For example, I spent a ton of time with these people last month and learned so much about health, energy, and mindset.
I’ve also been spending a lot of time with Dr. Henry Cloud lately. Follow him on Facebook or subscribe to his daily emails for a ton of relational wisdom and some great perspective.
The fact is, you don’t have to limit yourself to face-to-face interactions. Find the wise voices you need to speak into your life and surround yourself with them. Because who you hang with shapes who you become.