September was a doozy.
I started a new job, bought a new vehicle, fixed our plumbing, worked on an electrical project, replaced our washer and dryer, removed bats from our property, and generally fought fires – all while under the weather and in addition to my normal responsibilities.
Basically, it was a lot of transitioning from old to new. Each change required large amounts of time in the pursuit of best products, best prices, and best practices. Each project added greater stress and complexity to my life.
As a result, many of my soul care rhythms were disrupted. I wasn’t very available to my family. My inbox began piling up. In essence, I was running at an unsustainable pace and I knew it.
Things are slowly getting back to normal (knock on wood). I’m beginning to de-stress. My head is mostly above water. And I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
But I know that life will continue to throw me curveballs. Transitions are inevitable. There will always be more crazy.
One of the ways I’ve grown in recent years has been learning how to move from an inside-out orientation (subjective, reactive, nonreflective) to an outside-in orientation (objective, proactive, reflective). Hence, instead of being held captive by my experiences, I am now able to capture and direct them.
This helped me go through September with a greater degree of grace for myself than I would have extended in the past. I was able to step back and recognize the month for what it was, what it wasn’t, and what it needed to be. Doing so didn’t make the work itself any easier, but it did make the process of engaging the work more meaningful and productive.
All that to say, don’t be too hard on yourself if you’re going through something new. Expect it take longer, be harder, and cost more than you planned on. That’s just how these things go. When you get pockets of downtime, do your best to celebrate the progress you’ve made and remember that you’re only human. Success is about direction, not perfection. We’re all on the journey.
If you want to explore this more, here are some questions that may be helpful:
- What transitions am I going through? (planned/unplanned, internal/external, personal/professional, etc.)
- How are these transitions effecting me? (mentally, emotionally, physically, socially, spiritually, financially)
- How do these transitions fit into the bigger picture and my personal calling?
- What’s the best way for me to engage with these transitions?